It's terrifying to speak to someone who's pissed off.
If you don't like to argue, don't. Don't do it while you're angry, especially.
When you speak, don't ever speak like you're the superior. Everyone is equal. People don't like to be talked down to. Everyone deserves an opinion.
If you start to get agitated, clench your teeth, and say friendly things. Think positively. Walk away if you have to.
And never give up on keeping your cool and keeping things amicable.
Specifically, when someone says "just my opinion. not here to argue =) your way's fine," It could be that he/she's just offering his take on things, but accepts the other party's methods. He/she's could be trying to assuage any hostility, and keeping channels open for further discussion. Heated arguments = Very Bad™.
That depends on context of course. But give the person the benefit of the doubt, when you can. Especially when you don't know the person well enough.
A statement like "if people are getting confused over this... i think something's wrong" can very easily be misread. It would be prudent to rephrase it as "I think we should look at this again and see if we can make things clearer."
Just some thoughts and recent lessons.
If you don't like to argue, don't. Don't do it while you're angry, especially.
When you speak, don't ever speak like you're the superior. Everyone is equal. People don't like to be talked down to. Everyone deserves an opinion.
If you start to get agitated, clench your teeth, and say friendly things. Think positively. Walk away if you have to.
And never give up on keeping your cool and keeping things amicable.
Specifically, when someone says "just my opinion. not here to argue =) your way's fine," It could be that he/she's just offering his take on things, but accepts the other party's methods. He/she's could be trying to assuage any hostility, and keeping channels open for further discussion. Heated arguments = Very Bad™.
That depends on context of course. But give the person the benefit of the doubt, when you can. Especially when you don't know the person well enough.
A statement like "if people are getting confused over this... i think something's wrong" can very easily be misread. It would be prudent to rephrase it as "I think we should look at this again and see if we can make things clearer."
Just some thoughts and recent lessons.